I Don't Care

I Don’t Care

I don’t care are words I hear a lot. I say I don’t care to my folks about a lot of things. I don’t care about where we eat. I don’t care if I drive off my route. I don’t care...I don’t care….I don’t care. It never really mattered to me that maybe I should care until one of my friends said that to me.

It was the in the beginning of our freshman year when I heard about my friends boyfriend. He was from a different school, one that wasn’t Christian. She showed me text messages and pictures of them, it seemed like a really good relationship. As far as I knew he was a nice looking guy who respected her. True I would rather him be a Christian and I bugged her about that. Her response? “I don’t care.” It hit me like a  brick wall. I started to see how differently we were raised, I was raised in a home where I was to date a respectable Christian guy, she obviously wasn’t.

Sometime after the “I don’t care” she told me that almost every night her and her boyfriend would sneak out and go for a drive, getting home right before her folks would wake up. I wasn’t surprised, but I was really disappointed in her. I asked her why she would have to sneak out, why not ask her folks if she could go out. Her response? “My parents say I can’t date til I’m 16 and I don’t care.” I was getting pretty sick of those “I don’t cares”, mostly because she should care, sure he may treat her good right now but one of these times he’s not. He was older than her, 17, and that made things 10000% worse. Guy only have one thing on their minds...and its not marriage.

I was scared for her, thoughts kept going through my mind, she could get hurt and that boyfriends a lot stronger than her. I’m a very stubborn person so everyday I would bug the crap out of her saying he’s no good, get out now while you can, start caring! But she wouldn't listen, infact it just made her sneak out more often. It was getting worse by the day.

The boyfriend turned needy, if she wasn't responding to him he would call her and text her more. At first she thought it was cute, but then started to hate it. She stopped texting him and he would show up at her house, send her facebook messages, emails, anyway to get her to respond. I talked with him, telling him to stop, saying it was annoying and hard on her. His response? “I don’t care.” I screamed.

That day my friend learned the hard way she should care. She met up with her boyfriend and he got angry at her, didn’t hit her, but yelled and went very fast in the car. She got very scared and wanted to go home, but he wouldn’t bring her home. She got out of his car at a gas station, making her walk home, over 12 miles away. She got home early in the morning and called me. What did she say? “I care and I am sorry.”

Out of my friend’s experience I learned that we should care, and care a lot. My friend still isn’t the best at picking boyfriends but she cares more, and that’s all that matters to me.

As a human being I look at Anna from Frozen. She cares a lot about her sister, heck she goes after her even when her sister about killed her. Thats true caring. As a Christian I look to Philippians 2:4 “Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” This verse is one I try to live by, sure, I’m not perfect, I can be selfish, and look out for myself sometimes, but its the fact that I do care about my friends that cuts the cake.